“How to enhance, expand, and evolve your Impact, Influence, and Income.” The word “Persuasion” in GREEK means a special gift and is rooted in values and feelings. Leaders need technical expertise to win followers’ trust, manage operations, and set strategies.
The most effective leaders combine charismatic leadership with transactional and instrumental leadership to win KEY objectives to achieve their goals.
Charismatic Speakers help listeners understand, relate to, and remember a message. These tactics work because they allow you to create an emotional connection and make you appear more powerful, competent, and worthy of respect and regard.
The Harvard Business Review, short studies on Emotional Intelligence [Influence + Persuasion], state the following. 12 CHARISMATIC LEADERSHIP TACTICS. • Metaphors: Symbolic of something primarily abstract • Similies: A figure of speech involving the comparison of one thing with Another of a different kind is used to make a description more emphatic • Analogies: a comparison between two things, for explanation or clarification, comparable to something else in significant respects. • Stories and Anecdotes: a short amusing story about a real person helps make the message more engaging and connect listeners or interesting
• Contrasts: the degree of difference, a thing or person having qualities noticeably different • Rhetorical Questions: a question) asked to produce an effect or to make a statement rather than to elicit information or receive an answer
• Three-part lists: Three is sufficient to provide proof of a pattern and gives the impression of completeness.
• Expressions of moral conviction: Establish your credibility by revealing the “Quality of your Character”.
• Setting high goals and conveying confidence that they can be achieved
CHARISMA in VOICE and BODY [3 are nonverbal] • Gestures: Sign language, a movement of part of the body, especially a hand or the head, to express an idea or meaning. Signals for the audience. A fist can reinforce confidence, power, and certainty.
• Animated Voice: Emotion, sad, happy, excited, scared MUST come through the voice
• Facial expressions: Reinforce your message, seeing not just hearing passion, contributing to storytelling *stand up comedy
My TOP 7 personal techniques. HUGE SMILE “Your face is your fault” EYE CONTACT with everyone in the room PHYSICAL TOUCH… High 5, handshake, Hawaiian hug UNAPOLOGETIC AUTHENTIC and Vulnerability RETAIN VALUABLE INFORMATION, remembering and using names, and attention to details ABSOLUTE CONFIDENCE, certainty, and conviction in myself with integrity UNDISTRACTED 100% FOCUS on the task at hand and the person in front of me
We flew home to Phoenix together after a College Football tour to the University of Tulsa last weekend.
It was a beautiful and amazing experience with great friends at their home in Tulsa, Oklahoma, just twenty minutes from campus.
We were given the “Green Country” tour with Alumni, lifelong Hurricane, and Tulsa Queen GwenWhitfill.
My son Kanon, whose dream is to play college football, is a senior in high school and will be turning eighteen years old in two weekends.
Although the date is forever ingrained in my heart, October 19th, it was one of my brothers who shook my soul, evoking a deep, heavy punch to my gut and a saddening swell in my heart when he reminded me of the marble jar I shared with him just a few years back.
The premise of the jar and the visual representation of removing one marble every weekend until he is 18 is to have perspective and appreciation for the time we have left together, never to waste a minute or moment, and to make “MOST BEST DAYS” like my brother Shane Doherty and his wife Shawnee, who tragically lost their 7-year-old son Hollis to a rare form of brain cancer.
Perspective can be GOLD when you are stuck in your own silo… and gratitude is pure PLATINUM when you’re focused on collecting extrinsic objects Vs intrinsic essence and what you want versus what you have.
As I REFLECT on this moment in time and the emotional grip it has on me, I’m not quite CLEAR; it’s coming from the parts of me that know I am supposed to feel like this…
The part of my core that feels it could have given more… The piece of me that hurts because of my own lifelong Fatherhood wounds…
A painful, piercing perception that can only be released and restored by LOVE and GRACE.
I will beat myself up repeatedly if I don’t separate facts from feelings and give myself, as well as my son, the LOVE and GRACE needed to HEAL and GROW.
I want my legacy to be the lessons I preach, the stories I share, and the tools I give my son Kanon and his sister Camille. The hidden lesson and hard reality is that these lessons are not just for now and not just for them!
To guide our kids to where they want to go, we must meet them where they are at each stage of their lives. The formula for our “Father and Son” success, how we connect and hold space as two Alpha males sharing the same environment, is simple…
We challenge each other to rise, pushing our limits, always doing what we say we will do, one-on-ones, food, positive language, praise, constructive appraisals, unconditional love, a relentless drive for performance, leaning in, answering the call, intentional suffering, pain tolerance and putting in the WORK. I’m not quite sure what this boy will become or how he will spend his days, but I can tell you that he will use his grit, fortitude and mental toughness to achieve it and become it.
The TRUTH is… The WORLD NEEDS STRONG MEN; we have helped shape and build the next extraordinary one! What I am most proud of in my boy Kanon Dean Kayyem is his incredible ability to ENDURE, ADAPT and OVERCOME.
I wish him a Happy eighteenth Birthday and a lifetime of success, triumph, and freedom.
So, how many marbles are left in your kid’s jar, and what will you do with them? It is often said that it’s not the minutes but the moments that make life great…
But I disagree. I believe that in living a great life, we need both the minutes and the moments, the sets and the reps, the time and the task.
WE MUST SHOW UP to “Reverse the Curse,” breaking the generational disorder inflicted on all of man and building the next generation of REAL MEN.
Coach Luke Kayyem speaks to the Notre Dame Prep Varsity Lacrosse Team under the lights at the University of Arizona. The SAINTS went on to WIN and defeat Oro Valley by a score of 19-9.
A SAVAGE, as I define it, is a man, woman, or child who chooses to SHOW UP, lean in, answer the call, and do the MFN WORK! At home, in school, on the job, or on the lacrosse field.
A SAVAGE is someone you can trust, believe in, and respect as a beacon of hope and a symbol of strength, power, and authenticity.
Becoming a SAVAGE takes three concepts and turns them into one outcome…
🪓 Train your BODY 🪓 Train your MIND 🪓 Train your SPIRIT
SAVAGERY takes relentless training in education and experience!
It takes changing your thoughts from fixed to growth and your attitude from negative to positive.
The greatest SAVAGES have learned the art from other great SAVAGES…
I have personally and professionally known Chris LaLanne since 2001, when my fitness career began.
Chris Graduated from San Diego State with my wife Najla and joined forces with me as a Personal Trainer at the Palm Desert Athletic Club in southern California.
Unknowing by either of us, his Great Uncle Jack LaLanne was a significant role model and example of not only the career path and purpose in life but also to push my mind and body to an entirely new extreme.
Because of Jack’s Fortitude towards extremely hard physical feats and challenges, I have always been inspired to “Test” myself against myself. In 2011, at the Pinnacle of our success at CrossFit Scottsdale, powered by Kayyem FITness, I completed a Challenge of strength, gymnastics, and endurance, completing 1000 Pullups and 1000 Pushups in a time of four hours and fifty-six minutes. Jack’s legend completed the same reps in half the time without using the “Kip” method.
In this episode, you’ll hear me share a few Cowboy stories of the old drinking days and one of the many reasons I no longer participate in the “DOOM LOOP” and live an alcohol-free life.
He introduced me to CrossFit, found unparalleled success as a Fitness Professional, Coach, and box owner in downtown San Francisco, and founded LaLanne FITness Powered by CrossFit. One of the first 100 Affiliates on Earth and the top .001% of business owners.
Chris was my first friend, who had eliminated alcohol from his life entirely and inspired me to make a few massive shifts to my game. He has also been influential in learning, studying, and practicing the Paleo diet, Zone, Primal, and fasting.
Chris LaLanne is a Wizard in Optimizing Human Performance in the Biohacking world and has extensive knowledge of Optimal Health and longevity.
His fasting protocols and methodologies are world-class and include the Soul Warrior Blueprint for improving health through education and practice at his Lake Tahoe retreats, where you can learn, study, and introduce new habits and disciplines.
I often state the importance and value of becoming your greatest raving fan.
To be at peace and completely aligned with who you’ve been and who you are, RIGHT NOW!
This “current reality” becomes the gold standard for accelerating and expanding your growth, it is the origin and genesis of an “Intentional Life”.
We are either GROWING, or we are DYING.
Your health is either improving, or it’s not.
Your business is either producing, or it’s not.
You and your wife are either connecting, or you’re not.
To be “Inspired by Desire” means to create a VISION for your FUTURE self with “Limitless Abundance”.
“Once we AWAKE and can clearly see ourselves as the HERO”
Without restrictions, sabotaging stories, or limiting beliefs.
No cap! No roof! No ceiling!
We should be wickedly inspired by our own abilities to the point of knowing exactly how much to move, maneuver, and manipulate “the self” to transform into the greatest, most productive, centered, and inspired “highest self. “
I prefer the technical term AWAKENING through “Optimizing Human Performance” as the highest self with our ability to self-reflect and upgrade to a new standard operating procedure through improved habits, patterns, and practices.
“TO GET OUT OF OUR OWN WAY, ONCE and FOR ALL”
Once we are AWARE and AWAKE and can clearly see, “We are in complete control and have the POWER” to produce, present, perform, and execute all of our ideas, concepts, and creations.
The FLIP is SWITCHED for GOOD!
Abundance, however, is not and is a perishable skill.
When we stack our VISION with a JOURNAL, we create a PROCESS called a “Manifest Destiny”.
This is the evolution of man and what separates us from other primates.
To actualize our energy, effort, and excitement toward something better we are becoming.
This is the PLAYBOOK of EXTRAORDINARY, MULTIDIMENSIONAL, UNFUCKINGRECOGNIZEABLE men and the description of the FATHERS of the FUTURE MOVEMENT.
When we allow ourselves to be imperfectly human, we gift ourselves the freedom to be our true selves, undistracted by the need to meet external expectations.
In these moments of raw authenticity, we discover the profound power of self-love.
It’s not about achieving an unattainable and unsustainable standard of perfection or flawlessness but about recognizing and honoring our individuality.
As long as we don’t settle on our survival mindset [fixed] but instead pursue an optimized mindset [growth].
We can and will achieve more for and from ourselves.
As most of humanity has a less-than-ideal relationship with… guess who?
Thats right!
OURSELVES!!!
This is most likely why I spend so much time living, loving, leading, and teaching men to be inspired by their own goals, intentions, actions, and outcomes.
I thought I hated everyone until I realized my full potential to love others could not be fully recognized until I learned to love myself.
For who I’ve been, where I am, and where I want to go!
Here is a simple five-step process for exponential growth in the art of self-love and self-mastery.
The first step… towards “self-love” is to recognize your internal language without judgment and listen to the inner monologue or critic.
Step two: Ask yourself where it comes from. Was it born, bred, or built? Did someone teach you or not teach you how to think, feel, or function this way?
Step three… Ask who is the most positive person in your life and find out why they are this way.
Step four… Remove yourself from all negative inputs, doubters, cynics, and environments that do not create productive, constructive, supportive reinforcements.
Step five… Observe your new thinking patterns. “Be the witness, not the judge.” As you shape and shift from old to new, notice when you feel your best and correlate how your thoughts become your reality.
This is a lifelong journey of letting go, learning acceptance skills, re-directing your attention consciously, and releasing old stuck emotions that no longer serve you.
